2008 has started off with a bang of sorts. In January, 2008, Mayor Kwame Kilpatrick’s affair with his Chief of Staff, Christine Beatty was exposed via text messages sent between the two. Kilpatrick and Beatty publicly denied having an affair repeatedly, even under oath in the Fall of 2007. There was no doubt about the level of intimacy shared between Beatty and Kilpatrick. Beatty was more than a piece of ass to the mayor. She was his friend, lover, and confidante.
Excuse me, but aren’t those traditionally roles held by wives?
Kilpatrick apologized to his wife Carlita and jointly they said they were committed to working on their marriage. There is a certain comfort Beatty provided Kilpatrick that he wasn’t getting at home. This went much deeper than Beatty’s vagina.
Can an affair be forgiven? It will take work, but yes you can forgive.
However, the caveat is that you can’t ask for forgiveness if you happen to love another woman. The affair can stop, but feelings don’t just go away because you say the act of the affair is over.
The sad thing is when children are involved, they become the motivation to remain committed to family. But what message does that send to sons and daughters? Will these hurt children one day afflict this same pain on their spouses because of what they were exposed to as children?
Silda Spitzer appeared sedated and dazed as she stood beside her husband the governor of New York as he resigned from office. In both cases, Carlita and Silda have lots in common. Kwame had affairs, the Governor Spitzer, hired prostitutes. $85,000 of services were traced. I’d like to see an itemized statement of this out of curiosity, I mean really. However, Kwame Kilpatrick, unlike Governor Spitzer continues to blame other people, including the media for exposing his affair. This story continues to play out and is not over. Governor Spitzer was forced to resigned and for now is out of the spotlight momentarily.
I think it would have made a stronger statement if Carlita and Silda had not stood by their husband’s side and stayed home out of sight with their children to shield them from the actions of their father. This reflects the attitude of what most women may have done. Their absence would have sent a message to not only women but also perhaps to some men if not already in a similar position, that they might want to think again before risking it all.
Gosh, you got to the point here and without hesitiation I agree with you. Women need to stop being doormats for the husbands when they cheat. More and more women are staying single because we don’t want to deal with this garbage. I’ve been divorced 2 years because my husband cheated on me. I like your prospectives, keep enpowering women!
Damn, you’re so right! If women would stop enabling men to be the way they are, maybe they wouldn’t cheat like this. If a man knows that he has something to lose, maybe he’d do a better job of keeping his peter in his pants.